54: Your Triggers Are Codes - Here’s How to Decode Them

00:00:00: Hello and a very, very warm welcome to another episode of the Bayonne podcast.

00:00:06: So I want to share something today with you.

00:00:09: A few months ago i started little experiment with AI And I wanted to share what happened during this AI challenge Something that I honestly didn't expect at all Because right in the beginning of this experiment I found myself meeting apart from me In completely new way And I'm not talking about the version of me that i've been embodying for quite some time now, but rather about a version.

00:00:53: There's still something old inside of me that is having a say here.

00:00:58: Something that is influencing the way I feel, think and react… And i had choice in this moment!

00:01:06: I mean...i am well established mentor..I've been doing it for many years now….and could have easily brushed his experience under the

00:01:15: rock!!

00:01:15: I could have hidden it and simply continued showing you this perfectly integrated evolved version.

00:01:22: But that's not what I want.

00:01:24: And actually, it has never been what i wanted!

00:01:46: have allowed me to build this wonderful multi-million dollar business, create an incredibly happy relationship and continue growing and expanding in so many areas of my life.

00:01:56: And I want to share those things with you from a place of lived experience because that's actually how the idea for todays episode came about!

00:02:07: Because there are these little things And then we sit there thinking, wow.

00:02:18: Why did that affect me so much?

00:02:20: Why am I reacting like

00:02:22: this?".

00:02:23: I've already done SO MUCH in a work!

00:02:26: I have already worked through so many things... why is it still

00:02:30: happening?!

00:02:31: and i really want to talk about today because i believe getting triggered every now-and-then simply part of being human happens too but doesn't mean you are powerless when Quite.

00:02:46: the opposite actually.

00:02:48: One thing I've noticed with so many of the women i work With is that they believe getting triggered means, They have somehow taken a step backward As if it's proof That they haven't grown enough?

00:02:59: That they Haven't healed Enough or... ...that their simply not as far along as they thought they were And.. ..I understand The temptation and really do but this Is probably one Of the biggest misunderstandings I keep coming across when It comes to triggers.

00:03:16: A trigger is not a setback.

00:03:18: Not at all!

00:03:39: And by the way, defining your standards has also been a big part of my AI challenge.

00:03:47: I've even created a little free resource around this which you can find through my Instagram if you want to get more clarity on your own standards.

00:03:54: but coming back to what i was saying... You know exactly who you wanna be!

00:04:00: You can't be crystal clear about the woman that's becoming and how you wanna show up The way you wanna communicate, feel and things are no longer available for.

00:04:10: And then something happens, someone says something.

00:04:14: You receive a message maybe A certain situation unfolds and suddenly all of that clarity seems to disappear.

00:04:22: It's almost as if you can no longer access the inner guidance That was so clear just a moment ago... ...and thats exactly what a trigger can do.

00:04:32: it pulls your out-of-your present self into an older version And that older version isn't responding from the standards you've consciously chosen today.

00:04:42: She's responding from an old pattern a pattern.

00:04:45: That at some point in your life May have served as a form of protection.

00:04:51: Now here is the part that can change everything once you truly understand it and begin to integrate It, its never really about the trigger itself.

00:05:01: The trigger Is not actual issue.

00:05:04: Imagine You're sitting In Your Car Receive a message that immediately triggers something inside of you.

00:05:11: Or imagine your having conversation with someone and the person says one particular sentence, and BOOM!

00:05:17: There it is.

00:05:18: You feel in your body Your emotions shift Your thoughts start racing Maybe become defensive?

00:05:25: Shut down or suddenly feel hurt or rejected And It seems so obvious That the message or that sentence Is the problem.

00:05:33: But what if isn't?

00:05:36: What if the real issue is a code that was written into your system long before this moment ever happened?

00:05:43: Because somewhere along the way, you never system-learn to associate certain situations with danger.

00:05:49: For example it could have learned Maybe it learned that disagreement means rejection or the particular situation is going to leave you feeling hurt, abandoned and unsafe.

00:06:08: And from this moment on your system began responding to that old association.

00:06:14: So even though you are standing in a completely different situation today with different people and different circumstances Your body can still react as if you're back into an old experience.

00:06:25: The fascinating thing was how it felt so incredibly real.

00:06:30: It feels as though your reaction is entirely about what's happening right now, but very often there something much older underneath it.

00:06:39: And this one of the reasons why you can spend years working on yourself and still find yourself arriving at exactly that same point over-and-over again because perhaps you've worked in your beliefs created new routines developed a completely different understanding But the underlying code may still be running.

00:07:02: You might have changed so much on a conscious level, while this particular pattern has remained untouched.

00:07:09: And then there's one person and tone of voice.

00:07:12: This situation is one sentence and bang!

00:07:15: you're right back in that old reaction.

00:07:18: You know what I'm talking about no?

00:07:22: It can't be incredibly frustrating.

00:07:24: Believe me i know it really.

00:07:26: It took me years to really understand that understanding something intellectually isn't always enough.

00:07:33: You can know exactly why you're reacting the way you do and still find yourself reacting in exactly the same.

00:07:39: And this is also why unresolved triggers can interfere with your ability to manifest and embody the reality you actually want to create.

00:07:57: You can set their most beautiful intentions, define and quite a bit clear standards... ...and know exactly what your next level looks like!

00:08:05: But if your nervous system takes over in those key moments….

00:08:09: …you may find yourself acting from an old version of YOU rather than the frequency you consciously want to embody And so you keep returning to the same place over and over again.

00:08:21: Now, what do we do with that?

00:08:24: Well... The first step is not get rid of the trigger as quickly as possible!

00:08:29: ...and I know it's usually what we want to do now.

00:08:33: We want to fix this.

00:08:34: We wanna make our uncomfortable feeling disappear AS QUICKLY As WE CAN.

00:08:40: But thats not where the real transformation begins.

00:08:43: The first step is to actually recognize the trigger for what it is, To notice whats happening inside of you.

00:08:51: And instead of immediately reacting or trying to push the feeling away You become curious!

00:08:57: You begin to ask yourself OK interesting What is this really showing me?

00:09:03: Because as I said very often its not about a situation that's happening right now Its about the wound underneath.

00:09:10: And I want to give you a question that can take with for the next time.

00:09:14: You feel really, really triggered.

00:09:16: instead of immediately asking why is he doing this?

00:09:19: To me or Why Is she treating Me like This?

00:09:22: ask yourself something different.

00:09:24: Ask Yourself Whose voice is speaking inside Of me right now.

00:09:30: and here's another Question i find incredibly powerful which is how all do i actually Feel in this moment when this trigger hits me so intensely?

00:09:40: How old do I feel?

00:09:42: Do i feel like the grown woman I am today or is there a much younger part of me?

00:09:47: responding right now and sometimes simply asking yourself that question can already shift something.

00:09:54: Because it creates a little space between you and their reaction, It brings your out of being completely consumed by what's happening back into awareness And from that place of awareness You can begin to lead yourself again instead constantly being led by your reactions.

00:10:12: And to me, that's ultimately the difference between a woman who remains stuck in her triggers and a women who learns to read them like a map!

00:10:22: Both women may experience exactly the same emotions but only one of them allows those emotions take over completely and determine what happens next…and THAT my dear is what emotional self-leadership It's about being able to feel what you're feeling and still remain connected with yourself in the present moment.

00:10:44: Now, I also know how it can be felt when you are trying navigate this process all by your self.

00:10:50: And that brings me back into my AI challenge.

00:10:52: As i mentioned ,i started this experiment a few months ago On day one two or three...I'm not entirely sure anymore But was definitely right at the beginning.

00:11:03: I had started recording little voice messages from my AI in the morning, just sharing how i was feeling.

00:11:10: How it woken up what's on mind and inside of me... On one of those mornings ,I started talking about something that has been bothering me and suddenly bam there is a trigger!

00:11:23: I realized that something actually bothered.

00:11:25: for several days Something had been triggering me and I have been pushing it aside because you know, part of what was thinking come on Michelle if already comes so far.

00:11:36: You've done so much in your work!

00:11:37: You sat with so many triggers already.

00:11:40: surely this can still be an issue but apparently there is something that wanted my attention some thing i hadn't fully looked at yet And the beautiful thing was that this experience made me stop and really ask myself, okay how do I want to work with these now?

00:11:58: How can i actually move through this instead of just trying to make it go away.

00:12:03: So I sat down and created a little process for my self A process to decode that particular trigger And I asked myself a series of very specific questions.

00:12:35: Rather than simply staying with the old reaction, I began making something different available to myself.

00:12:41: A different choice a different way of being in that situation.

00:12:45: and while i was doing this... ...I suddenly had a thought wait a minute.

00:12:49: how many women are experiencing exactly the same thing?

00:12:53: How many women find themselves in the middle of a trigger and have absolutely no idea how to get themselves out of it?

00:13:00: Because that's one of the things about triggers.

00:13:03: They can become so dominant, they can take up so much space inside us.

00:13:08: in that moment it becomes incredibly difficult to see anything beyond emotion we are experiencing you know?

00:13:15: That no and I thought what if i could turn this little process i've created for myself into something i could share with the women in my community Something that would help them navigate those moments too.

00:13:29: And that's how the Code Your Trigger was born.

00:13:32: So it is not some huge program, which requires hours and hours of your time... ...and you don't need to spend weeks studying before you can actually use it!

00:13:40: It's a small powerful process I originally created for myself because i needed it.. ..and found so incredibly valuable that I thought why would keep this to my self?

00:13:52: Why not make it available as

00:13:54: well?!

00:13:55: So think of it as a little tool you can come back to whenever your reaction is so much bigger than the situation in front.

00:14:02: You know those moments when something happens and feel that intensity doesn't match what's actually going on!

00:14:12: That's exactly where this tool comes from, inside decode trigger you'll begin to understand why certain moments affect Why there are situations in which you suddenly don't feel like yourself anymore and why you keep falling into reactions that don't actually reflect the women want to be.

00:14:34: And most importantly, how we can begin to move out of those automatic reactions back into conscious choice because That's what I want for You!

00:14:48: And if you've been following me for a while, You know that I only teach things of actually experience myself.

00:14:57: Lift wisdom!

00:14:59: Things that i have tried, things that i integrated and made real difference in my own life.

00:15:05: Over the past few weeks ,I've worked with Decode Your Triggers several times.

00:15:12: I've created a few videos to guide you through the process, a workbook that i personally wrote and an audio that am actually using myself right now.

00:15:20: And I love it when I can return whenever something comes up!

00:15:24: So if you know this feeling of being triggered by something and suddenly feeling almost at the mercy your own emotional reaction then perhaps this is your invitation.

00:15:34: take closer look To understand what code was written into your system in the past, and to begin rewriting that code so that you have more freedom to choose how you want to respond.

00:15:46: Because imagine when those old reactions no longer make decisions for YOU!

00:15:53: When you can remain connected with yourself even at moments that would previously have completely thrown you off?

00:16:04: Not just when everything is going beautifully, but especially in those moments where life challenges you.

00:16:10: And that's exactly why I've created this little tool!

00:16:13: Now decode your triggers something completely new and if you feel called to work with it i would love to invite But I've intentionally made it incredibly, incredibly affordable because i wanted to create something that costs you just a small investment but that You can come back again and Again potentially for years.

00:16:35: Something simple practical And powerful That you Can actually use in your everyday life.

00:16:41: The link is waiting For you In the show notes if you say oh my gosh yes this Is for me.

00:16:46: Now there's something else i want To share with you Because what ive been noticing Over these past few weeks is that I'm moving into an entirely new level of embodiment myself.

00:16:58: And they can feel this so strongly, there's a new version of me emerging and then going to take you along on this journey in Instagram over the coming weeks.

00:17:07: I am going to let your into my world and share what his process of embodying A New Version Of Myself actually looks like not just beautiful moments when everything feels expensive underline but also the moment all triggers suddenly appear The moment when I realize, oh interesting.

00:17:25: There's another part of me that wants to be seen and they'll show you how i'm working with those moments including How am using the kodio trigger myself?

00:17:34: Because I think it so important we begin To understand something When your stepping into a new version Of yourself.

00:17:40: It doesn't necessarily mean That everything suddenly becomes easy.

00:17:47: I wish it worked that way sometimes.

00:17:51: But if you've been on this journey for a while and especially, If you have been following my work You know at our next level very often ask something of us.

00:18:01: It asks to sit down And look at ourselves To become aware Of the things we've been avoiding And recognize The patterns still running.

00:18:11: Then show up differently.

00:18:18: And this is where triggers can become such powerful turning points.

00:18:23: Because instead of seeing them as proof that you're not there yet, You can begin to see them as an invitation An Invitation To Meet Yourself More Deeply and To Understand Yourself.

00:18:33: On Another Level This Creates Space For A Version Of You That Is No Longer Led By Those Old Patterns.

00:18:41: Maybe My Dear!

00:18:42: That's Exactly Where You Are Right Now.

00:18:45: Maybe you can already feel that there's a new version of you waiting to be embodied, and your level of love for freedom or abundance of self-leadership.

00:18:54: And at the same time You keep noticing these odd reactions That seem to pull you backward.

00:18:59: Then I really want you to remember this Your triggers don't have To Be The Things That Hold You Back From Your Next Level.

00:19:06: They Can Become The Very Doorway Through Which You Enter It And that's why I would love for you to have decode your trigger as a tool along the way.

00:19:15: You can find the link in show notes and i'm generally so curious what happens when we start working with it!

00:19:22: Please take me long on your journey, send me message on instagram leave comment tell about my experience but also about our own relationship with triggers.

00:19:33: How do deal with them?

00:19:34: Do tend push them away or get lost?

00:19:38: Or have you already started recognizing that these moments can actually be an invitation into your next most extraordinary fully embodied version of yourself?

00:19:48: So I would absolutely love to hear from you.

00:19:51: And with that, my love!

00:19:52: I wish you the most magical beautiful day.

00:19:55: Thank You so much for being here with me and i'm really looking forward to our next episode.

00:20:01: Until then... A big hug from me and bye-bye.