49: The Frequency of Receiving

00:00:00: Hello and a very warm welcome to the Bayonne podcast from the bottom of my heart.

00:00:05: I'm really, really happy you're here!

00:00:09: Today i want to talk about something that is...I am sure also very interesting for And I've been thinking about this topic a lot lately because whenever we talk about receiving in the manifestation world, The conversation very quickly becomes a conversation About money.

00:00:32: How can i receive more Money?

00:00:34: how Can I open myself to More abundance ?

00:00:37: How do I become A woman who can hold more?

00:00:40: and yes of course money is part Of it but I think We sometimes start a Conversation much too late.

00:00:48: Over the last few years, and especially through working with so many women I've become more interested in the question of what receiving actually is before money ever enters a picture.

00:01:00: So i started asking myself What actually changed my own capacity to receive?

00:01:07: And when i look back The answer Is very clear!

00:01:15: And oh my gosh, this was a huge piece for me.

00:01:18: Because I was young woman who lived with lot of self-doubt and also had quite strong need for validation from the outside!

00:01:27: I wanted to be seen...I want that confirmation…and somehow there is never really enough of it.

00:01:34: You can't properly relate in some area your life When something inside you feels empty.

00:01:40: Somebody give you their most beautiful compliment and it feels amazing for a moment, but doesn't really land.

00:01:48: Very soon you need the next confirmation!

00:01:51: And I experienced that for long time without understanding what was happening...I wasn´t constantly unhappy now.. I had beautiful life in many ways ..and still there were these moments where i could feel this deep dissatisfaction with myself ...and kept looking outside for something which would finally make me feel full.

00:02:12: Today, I would say that i wasn't able to fully receive myself.

00:02:15: And for us as women the body is such an obvious place to see this!

00:02:20: Think about how many women spend years fighting their bodies?

00:02:25: We look in the mirror and immediately scan from what needs to change.

00:02:29: we control our food compare ourselves with other woman and keep adding things from outside into hope.

00:02:36: one day Will we look at ourselves and find in the field?

00:02:40: Yes, now I'm okay.

00:02:42: I love beauty!

00:02:44: I love doing things that make me feel fresh and beautiful And have absolutely no issue with getting support from outside.

00:02:52: But all those things land very differently when underneath them there's already a fundamental yes to yourself.

00:03:00: For me That is really what this about.

00:03:04: It doesn't even need this huge label of self-love, because sometimes self love becomes another project we need to complete.

00:03:11: it can be much simpler.

00:03:14: Can I look at myself and say yes?

00:03:16: This is me!

00:03:18: Can i be in this body without constantly being at war with it?

00:03:22: Can I actually experience myself instead of permanently correcting myself?

00:03:28: Because the moment that began to change that relationship... ...I noticed something else happening.

00:03:34: I started feeling fuller.

00:03:36: There was more gratitude for the fact that i wake up in this body every morning and that this body has carried me through my entire life, And That Was Especially Powerful For Me Because My Body Had Been The Place Where I Expressed So Much For A Year.

00:03:52: Whenever Something In My Life Wasn't Right ,My Body Reacted deep pain, inflammation and fever.

00:03:59: And for a long time I processed so much of my life physically because i didn't know another way.

00:04:06: So making peace with my body became huge receiving practice from me.

00:04:11: This is where the first big realization sits.

00:04:14: when you are constantly resisting yourself Your whole system is practicing resistance.

00:04:21: Of course that influences your ability to receive.

00:04:25: Your body is the place where life reaches you.

00:04:28: Everything that you want to experience will eventually be experienced here!

00:04:33: So when you begin saying yes yourself, You are already opening a very important door and from there receiving becomes much bigger than money.

00:04:42: It becomes the way you meet life.

00:04:44: That brings me to gratitude, although even the very gratitude sometimes adds so much spiritual baggage attached to it that they almost stop feeling what actually means.

00:04:56: For me, gratitude is simply this ability to notice What Life Is Giving Me.

00:05:01: Right Now While I'm sitting here recording this for example i can look across my office and see the sunlight coming through the window and creating this beautiful light on a wooden floor.

00:05:14: I can genuinely enjoy that!

00:05:17: This morning, i was out and there were two children smiling simply because they were having fun with life.

00:05:22: And something like that touches me.

00:05:25: Those are tiny moments and yet They contain so much.

00:05:30: The interesting thing is That Life gives us those moments all day long While our attention Is often somewhere else entirely.

00:05:39: So we're already thinking about what has to happen later, What still isn't working on?

00:05:44: What haven't achieved yet.

00:05:46: And in that state it is incredibly easy To miss the life that's happening and this Is where my understanding of receiving really changed.

00:05:56: for a long time Receiving can sound like something That will happen one day.

00:06:01: One Day The money comes!

00:06:03: One day love arrives In exactly the form I've been waiting For.

00:06:07: Then i'll be able to receive.

00:06:09: But if I keep placing receiving in the future, i am actually training myself and waiting.

00:06:17: And that's the opposite state!

00:06:20: The rule we talk about so often in manifestation is BE DO HALF.

00:06:27: So this date has to come first... ...and suddenly a question becomes how much life am I able to receive now?

00:06:37: Receiving doesn't begin when something spectacular arrives.

00:06:42: It is happening every second!

00:06:45: The only question is whether you're available for it, and this does not mean that every moment has to feel wonderful.

00:06:53: I've had situations in my own life that made me very sad And of course they didn't sit there thinking Wonderful.

00:06:59: i'm so grateful to be sad.

00:07:01: That would feel completely artificial but Receiving in that moment meant allowing myself to be there with what I was feeling.

00:07:10: Take that!

00:07:12: I could acknowledge the sadness without turning into this enormous field that takes over everything and even while feeling sad, i could still notice beauty somewhere else in my life.

00:07:24: Those things can't exist together Actually...I think it's part of real abundance.

00:07:30: Being alive gives us such an enormous range of experience, and I don't need to reduce my life to only the emotions i consider desirable.

00:07:41: I can feel something deeply and still remain open... And that is very different from collapsing into the emotion and deciding now everything as terrible!

00:07:51: And this ability to remain OPEN is something you can train.

00:07:56: You start seeing more of the little pearls Life Gives YOU.

00:08:00: At some point, your system begins to understand that there is actually so much coming toward you all the time.

00:08:06: And once you have that relationship with receiving money becomes more interesting because now we can look at money as part of this flow instead making it responsible for creating a feeling of abundance in first place.

00:08:21: So here's something I would love you to observe in your own life Just notice what happens when ever money is involved.

00:08:30: Maybe you're buying something that really want and are excited about the purchase.

00:08:35: And then, in a second when you have to pay for it?

00:08:38: You fill your self-contract!

00:08:40: I find this very fascinating because we live in our world where people love buying things.

00:08:47: We love the moment of choosing something... ...and paying what we chose somehow is completely different.

00:08:55: There's often quite a charge on part of exchange.

00:08:59: So, I'm not asking you to force yourself love every bill from now on.

00:09:03: Just become interested in your reaction!

00:09:06: What does the system believe when money moves away?

00:09:10: Does it immediately translate that movement into loss?

00:09:14: and what changes if you are aware of what you receive through this money?

00:09:20: You paid for a meal & were nourished.

00:09:23: You payed somebody for their work and something became possible because And suddenly, you begin to see movement instead of only seeing money disappearing.

00:09:34: That can soften so much resistance!

00:09:38: You start experiencing money as something that moves through your life – sometimes it arrives…sometimes...you use it….and the relationship with it no longer has to swing widely between excitement and fear depending on which direction it happens.

00:09:55: That is a much more receptive relationship with money for me.

00:09:59: And now you can see why I started this whole conversation somewhere completely different.

00:10:05: If i cannot receive myself, if I barely notice the abundance already available to me and if I contract every time something moves out of my hands then trying become greater receiver only by focusing on more money misses huge part.

00:10:24: Receiving is a way of being with life, and I love thinking about the present moment as kind of receiving platform.

00:10:33: Every moment gives you something that can actually meet – sometimes it's simply like sunlight on the floor!

00:10:41: Sometimes Life has given an emotion to be felt… Money in another form or what could move through this open system?

00:10:52: And once you begin living like this, so much pressure disappears.

00:10:57: You don't need the outside world to perform for you every day So that you can feel abundant and money doesn't carry your entire responsibility For making you feel safe and full!

00:11:09: You begin receiving first... ...and from that place Your frequency becomes much lighter.

00:11:17: There is more play in it because you're no longer standing there with your hands out saying, okay when are You finally going to give me something?

00:11:25: But you start noticing.

00:11:27: Oh wow I am already being given so much and that Is the state from which more can meet you.

00:11:36: So if you want to explore this after the episode don't make It another big assignment.

00:11:41: just observe yourself for a day.

00:11:44: Notice where you're already receiving beautifully and where you're still close.

00:11:50: See what happens when you look at yourself in the mirror, pay attention to those ordinary moments.

00:11:55: your life offers something that would usually rush straight past And When money appears on a day become curious about energy attached to its movement.

00:12:07: That alone can show so much.

00:12:10: For me this really is hard of it.

00:12:14: Receiving isn't reward for manifestation.

00:12:19: Receiving is a state you practice before the thing your desire arrives, so actually it's the beginning.

00:12:27: And maybe the first place to practice this much closer than you thought?

00:12:32: It begins with YOU!

00:12:33: It begins here in the life that already happening.

00:12:40: So my dear... This what I wanted to give you today.

00:12:45: Thank you so much for being here with me.

00:12:48: I'd love to hear what this brings up and where you noticed that may have been postponing your own receiving into some future moment, please leave a comment.