45: The 80/20 Trap - How to Stay in Your Magic Zone

00:00:00: Hello and a very warm welcome to new episode of the Bayonne podcast.

00:00:05: I am so happy you're here, that we get spend our next few minutes together!

00:00:10: Today's episode is inspired by one question that comes up again and again in my community, which is then how do I stay connected to myself?

00:00:19: How do i stay on track.

00:00:21: How can I stay centered?

00:00:23: ?How Do I Stay Aligned ?

00:00:25: How do make sure after a session like coaching or really powerful morning ,I don't find myself completely swallowed-up everyday life two hours later?

00:00:35: And that's exactly what I want to talk about today, because i know this very well myself.

00:01:02: landing pages, calls, podcasts copy decisions Whatever people who need something from me a company that needs to be led and of course The danger is that you wake up in the morning look at that list And immediately start running.

00:01:16: Yeah We don't know where to start so we just throw ourself into it and end up In a cycle of doing-doing-doing Doing and we completely forget about simply being.

00:01:28: and That's when the question hit me How do I stay in my magic zone?

00:01:34: So the reason i'm going into all of this detail is to tell you, I feel you and know what that's like.

00:01:41: And right there with you... That´s my everyday life too!

00:01:45: You do..you tick things off ..You solve problems ...and then at some point in the afternoon suddenly realize where did it go ?

00:01:54: Where are those connections I could still fill this morning?

00:01:57: This is one of biggest traps.

00:01:59: begins for me The ATEEZ TWENTY TRIP.

00:02:01: Most of us learned very early on if you want to be successful, You have to do a lot.

00:02:07: So eighty percent of our attention goes into doing and that made the profound impression me actually had deep impact my path forward And I also think part of success is fact.

00:02:21: i really took too hard in big way.

00:02:23: so let me elaborate briefly.

00:02:26: most people thing that eighty percent about doing.

00:02:31: I have to work, get this that and the other thing done.

00:02:35: Work through my to-do list.

00:02:37: Deliver solutions with self problems.

00:02:40: And twenty percent is about being.

00:02:43: But truth is it's exactly opposite.

00:02:45: If you want a magical life If you want to invite magical success, if you want be free and above all, tap into your maximum power of manifestation.

00:02:56: You need very clear with yourself that eighty percent is about who YOU are!

00:03:03: That means EIGHTY PERCENT IS IN A WORK!

00:03:06: Eighty percent is keeping your energy system crystal-clear & spotless.

00:03:11: Eighty Percent Is Your Mindset the frequency you embody and move through your day with, because your actions come from that state.

00:03:20: That is a crucial point!

00:03:22: You are always taking action form an inner-state.

00:03:25: anyway The question is which one?

00:03:27: If I start my morning already feeling pressured... ...I will work from pressure.

00:03:32: if i wake up feeling like am already ten steps behind me today.. ..i'll bring energy into conversations.

00:03:39: But if I start the morning very clear about who i want to be today and what am choosing to align with, my whole day starts from a completely different foundation.

00:03:49: And that's why My Day has started With A Very Clear Intention.

00:03:52: For Years Now Before I move into everything That Wants To Happen That Day ,I Connect With Myself .

00:03:59: I Ask Who Am I Today ?

00:04:01: And I Know Where I'm Casting My Golden Line.

00:04:06: What Do You Want To See In My Life Right Now?

00:04:08: What do I want to expand in my business?

00:04:11: what they are wanting?

00:04:11: experience with the people i love.

00:04:14: What is my vision and this intention for me, And return it regularly?

00:04:20: My vision not something that put on a vision board at beginning of January and then very look into it next eleven month.

00:04:27: keep coming back relationship every single day.

00:04:31: Keep that connection alive.

00:04:33: And then comes something very essential.

00:04:36: I don't just think about my vision, i make its frequency available to me body and that try.

00:04:42: do this every single minute of the day!

00:04:46: This is where embodiment come in.

00:04:48: what does reality want create feel like?

00:04:52: What does a woman who already lives life feels like?

00:04:56: That for me it's famous act as if And there is a huge difference between that fake it until you make, and act as if.

00:05:06: With fake-it Until You Make It and playing a role with Act As If I enter in reality internally and align myself with it.

00:05:16: I bring my body to me.

00:05:18: little by little the vision becomes a state.

00:05:22: So if you want to know how to hold your energy throughout the day, for me.

00:05:25: The answer starts right there.

00:05:28: first You need to know which energy or actually one to hold.

00:05:31: What is your highest possible alignment?

00:05:34: Where are you going?

00:05:36: what do you want experience How do you wanna feel while creating that life?

00:05:41: because If it doesn't know that he won't notice when we move away from it and That leads.

00:05:46: so the next important piece you need to now yourself.

00:05:51: You need to get really intimate with yourself.

00:05:55: Maybe you feel amazing in the morning, you meditate and go for a walk... ...you're by yourself but can hear your inner voice crystal clear!

00:06:03: And then that day actually starts….

00:06:05: The kids needs something….

00:06:06: Your first call starts.. You open emails and suddenly the beautiful alignment is

00:06:11: gone!!!

00:06:12: That's such valuable information because now you know this where I lose myself.

00:06:18: maybe it happens in conflict.

00:06:21: Maybe it happens the moment somebody needs something from you and your automatically slip back into people pleasing.

00:06:27: And this is exactly where I get to look because self-leadership also means knowing your own patterns so well that eventually, You can see them coming!

00:06:43: Maybe you already know, if I open my messages first thing in the morning and immediately everyone else's world.

00:06:51: So... Open them later!

00:06:53: If you know that after three calls on a row You feel completely disconnected from your body creates space between.

00:07:00: If you notice under stress you immediately hold your breath And start functioning then need to weigh back into your body.

00:07:08: maybe thats your breath.

00:07:10: maybe step outside for moment.

00:07:13: This is less about finding the perfect routine, it's about creating routines that actually work for you.

00:07:20: You build a life that supports your alignment and THAT IS SELF LEADERSHIP!

00:07:25: And then throughout the day you keep asking yourself one very simple question Who´s in the driver seat right now?

00:07:32: Is this my small self?

00:07:35: Is there an old fear telling me?

00:07:37: I am not ready yet?

00:07:38: Am I defining myself through someone else's reaction again, or am i really here?

00:07:44: Am I connected to my vision.

00:07:46: Am I making the next decision from this place?

00:07:49: and This kind of awareness changes so much because you notice much faster when you leave yourself And then You can come back.

00:07:58: What is see-again & Again Is this So many women have an incredible number Of tools.

00:08:03: They know how manifestation works they understand embodiment they've read the books and done their coaching, that toolbox is full.

00:08:11: And at some point we have to ask ourselves a very honest question if I know all of this why am i still not where I want to be?

00:08:22: Why is the bank balance still not there?

00:08:24: Why are my still missing the freedom I've been asking for years?

00:08:28: ?Why Am I Not Living This Big Vision Yet?

00:08:31: From me There Are Two Possibilities Either the knowledge is still mainly living in your head, or you're not applying what we already know.

00:08:40: and a moment that actually matters.

00:08:43: And this where famous knowing-doing app appears – The gap between Knowing & Doing!

00:08:49: You can know everything about visibility….

00:08:52: …and then comes the moment when you have to hit publish... ...and you can know EVERYTHING about boundaries….

00:08:58: Then you are sitting across from person who usually shrink around.

00:09:02: You can be crystal clear on your vision and then comes a decision that would actually move you closer to it.

00:09:09: What do you do, then?

00:09:11: And That is the moment where you see how deeply your inner work has really entered your life because at some point action has to follow the inner work.

00:09:20: Those twenty percent matter so much.

00:09:24: They are the embodiment of what you built within eighty percent.

00:09:29: I believe this exactly.

00:09:30: were many people stop They do the inner work, they know very clearly what their next step is and then an old story takes over.

00:09:39: Fear gets louder doubts come up or procrastination begins.

00:09:44: What we call it doesn't really matter.

00:09:46: The result stays the same We don't cross a line.

00:09:50: And that's why alongside alignment there something else That is incredibly important to me This commitment...that inner clarity of.

00:10:00: I know why i started, I know my vision and am not stopping now.

00:10:05: Even if someone touches me for it or even the next step takes courage – I keep going!

00:10:11: Because a coach can open up space to you… A mentor can show where you've slipped back into an old pattern….

00:10:18: Someone can encourage when your already standing with one foot in front of your next door but have to walk through yourself.

00:10:27: And that is YOUR responsibility.

00:10:29: and I find that so incredibly powerful.

00:10:32: Nobody is coming to save you, You lead yourself!

00:10:35: You learn how to stand by yourselves so deeply That you stop abandoning your own vision over-and-over again.

00:10:42: And sometimes self leadership can be incredibly simple.

00:10:46: Maybe you set an alarm that reminds you to realign Or you intentionally block out time for yourself in the morning or maybe write one sentence somewhere.

00:10:55: You'll see it every single day.

00:10:57: You create a structure that helps you practice what you eventually want to live naturally.

00:11:02: And, eventually it becomes part of your identity and That is how embodiment is built!

00:11:08: There are certain things I am incredibly consistent with now... ...I simply don't negotiate them myself anymore.. ..and maybe there's a powerful question for YOU What are you no longer willing to negotiate yourself?

00:11:23: If you understand that your inner work is the foundation of external results, then give it the importance it deserves.

00:11:37: And if we know which situations regularly throw us off-center – prepare yourself for them!

00:11:47: And that is where the eighty and a twenty come together.

00:11:50: Your inner alignment becomes an action, your actions are carried by your alignment.

00:11:56: That's when manifestation really starts to gain momentum.

00:12:00: So if you take one thing away from this episode today Let it be This!

00:12:04: Your job isn't stay perfectly aligned all day long It's not !

00:12:09: You're job is know yourself well enough To notice when move out of Alignment and then lead yourself back, faster each time with more awareness.

00:12:21: Until your magic zone is no longer something you only feel for twenty minutes during a morning meditation but it becomes the foundation that you live from And this is self-leadership!

00:12:32: Maybe today ask yourselves how well am I really taking care of my eighty percent?

00:12:38: How clear are my intentions?

00:12:44: And what is the one action that belongs to my twenty percent today?

00:12:48: And then align and move.

00:12:51: I hope you have so much fun with this because embodiment IS FUN!

00:12:58: So, thank-you for being here with me today... ...and i hope it was of any good for YOU.

00:13:04: I'm looking forward our next episode with all my love.

00:13:08: Cheers!