44: Your Energy Is Yours - Stop Giving the Outside World Power Over You

00:00:00: Hello and a very warm welcome to new episode of the Bayon podcast.

00:00:06: Today I want talk about something that comes up again, And it is other people's energy.

00:00:13: What happens when you walk into room suddenly feel different?

00:00:17: When someone is angry, anxious negative heavy somehow You carry feeling home with even though in really good mood before.

00:00:27: How do you stop absorbing everyone around and how to get back yourself?

00:00:33: For me, the answer comes down one thing which is self-empowerment.

00:00:38: Because the deeper your know your own energy The less power anything outside of you has to define your inner state.

00:00:46: So let's start with energy itself.

00:00:48: Energy at its core Is always neutral.

00:00:52: What gives it meaning as a way we relate?

00:00:56: Imagine you walk into a room and somebody there is in terrible mood.

00:01:01: And you feel it immediately, the whole field feels tense... ...and within few minutes you notice that your are tensed too!

00:01:10: It's easy to say I absorbed her energy but i want offer another perspective.

00:01:16: What if her energies simply activated something on their own system?

00:01:20: Something already available to be activated.

00:01:25: This changes everything Because now you are no longer powerless.

00:01:29: You no longer have to walk through life trying to protect yourself from every person, every room and every mood.

00:01:36: Instead you begin asking what is happening inside my field right now?

00:01:41: What am I choosing to resonate with?

00:01:44: And what actually true for me?

00:01:46: We're constantly surrounded by other people's realities Their fears their beliefs the protections The opinions about us And if you're not deeply connected to yourself, another person's reality can very quickly become louder than your own.

00:02:01: Someone doubts your idea and suddenly you doubt it too!

00:02:05: Someone criticizes you and suddenly question your

00:02:07: worth!!

00:02:09: This happens especially when their message touches an old story that already exists inside of them.

00:02:15: Maybe a part has spent years wondering am I good enough?

00:02:18: Can I really do this?

00:02:20: Am i allowed to take up this much

00:02:22: space?".

00:02:22: And then somebody comes along and mirrors that exact insecurity back to you.

00:02:28: Of course it hits!

00:02:30: The important part is what happens next, Do You make their protection your truth or do you return yourself?

00:02:37: This awareness becomes incredibly powerful Because awareness gives you a moment of choice.

00:02:43: You can stop and ask, is this mine?

00:02:46: Is it actually what I believe ?

00:02:48: Is how i want to feel?

00:02:50: Is energy that i want continue feeding?

00:02:53: Sometimes the answer's very clear no!

00:02:55: This has nothing do with me.

00:02:57: And in those moments come back into your own field Simply through remembering who u are.

00:03:03: That just one most important energetic practice is a No Return To Yourself Again and again And this is also why I do not believe that the answer is constantly trying to protect your energy.

00:03:15: Think about the energy of protection for a moment, Protection assumes something outside.

00:03:20: you has the power to invade you so You build walls and close your heart become hyper-rare or who might be affecting?

00:03:29: Very quickly Your entire focus is on threat!

00:03:33: I prefer completely different point.

00:03:36: Actually the question, how deeply can I inhabit my own truth?

00:03:41: Because when you're deeply anchored in your own field You do not need to fight another person's energy.

00:03:47: You feel it and witness it And still remain yourself.

00:03:53: Then someone can disapprove of without abandoning their decision Or live with fear Without entering that fear.

00:04:03: This is energetic sovereignty And that brings us directly to self-empowerment.

00:04:08: To me, self empowerment means I stop handing the responsibility for my inner state of the outside world.

00:04:15: I stopped saying I feel worthy because somebody praised me Because if the outside vault gives you your power The outside vault can also take it away again.

00:04:25: That kind of power is conditional.

00:04:28: It changes with circumstances.

00:04:31: True self-empowerment begins when you become the source.

00:04:36: You know your worth before the applause, and who you are even if somebody projects a completely different version of yourself onto them – that is inner power!

00:04:47: And I think especially for women.

00:04:49: redefining power is incredibly important because power has historically been associated with domination or control but this isn't what kind.

00:05:01: The power I am talking about is deeply internal.

00:05:05: It's the power of self-awareness and knowing your values, it has the ability to say this is who i am This what is true for me And this part that I'm choosing without needing somebody else lose in order you win There.

00:05:20: a simple image I love for this Imaging two wolves inside You.

00:05:25: One represents the old conditioned Self The part of you that constantly looks outside for proof.

00:05:32: Proof, That You're Good Enough, That Your Safe, Lovable and You Are Going To Succeed.

00:05:38: And then there's another Part Of You the Part That Remembers ,The Part That Knows My Value Is Inherent.

00:05:44: My Light Exists Before Anybody Recognizes It.

00:05:48: my Truth Does Not Disappear Because Somebody Disagrees With it.

00:05:52: and Every Day You Feed One Of Those Two Wolves and you feed them through attention, And what do you choose to believe?

00:06:00: Let's say someone criticizes you.

00:06:03: Immediately the old part of your essay says See!

00:06:06: You knew it...you are not good enough.

00:06:08: Now have a choice You can continue feeding that story or wolf Or stop saying What is the truth here?

00:06:18: Maybe there something useful in feedback?

00:06:20: Take the pearl take information helps grow and leave rest And that is very different from allowing somebody else's opinion to become your identity.

00:06:31: You can receive information without surrendering your power.

00:06:34: The same is true with what we call external energy.

00:06:38: When something affects you deeply, ask yourself What is this showing me?

00:06:43: Maybe someone's confidence triggers envy in you.

00:06:46: That envy may be showing a part of itself that wants more visibility.

00:06:50: Maybe somebody's freedom confronts you with the places where your still holding yourself back.

00:06:56: Then, other person is not a problem.

00:06:58: they are showing something.

00:07:00: Take the message take invitation and come Back to Yourself.

00:07:06: This is why awareness transforms energy so quickly.

00:07:09: You stop being victim of what you feel become curious about it.

00:07:14: And here s practical part The next time you feel like you have absorbed someone else's energy, do not immediately try to get rid of it.

00:07:23: Pause for a moment!

00:07:25: Feel your body take one breath and ask who am I right now?

00:07:30: And then what is true from me right

00:07:33: now?!

00:07:34: And finally... What energy do i choose to cultivate form

00:07:38: here??

00:07:39: Maybe you feel calm underneath the noise or maybe you simply realize This feeling does not belong to the direction I want you move in.

00:07:48: So then bring your attention back to what DOES.

00:07:53: Feed your own field, nurture the energy that you want to strengthen and stay there!

00:07:58: And more often than not do this, quicker.

00:08:00: you return yourself.

00:08:02: At first it might take hours sometimes even a day.

00:08:07: That doesn't mean doing something wrong.

00:08:09: You are learning awareness, your own energetic language and with practice something shifts.

00:08:17: What used to pull you out of yourself for an entire day may eventually take ten minutes then two.

00:08:24: Then you notice the shift almost immediately –you recognize oh I just left my field And come back home.

00:08:33: That is a practice.

00:08:35: Self-empowerment isn't one giant decision.

00:08:40: It is a relationship with yourself, A decision you keep renewing.

00:08:45: I will not abandon myself because someone else misunderstands me…I would not hand my worth to somebody's opinion….

00:08:52: I won't allow another person's fear to dictate what i believe as possible.. I'll listen and remain open.

00:09:00: And that was still truth.

00:09:01: for my own truth This means to own your energy.

00:09:05: So perhaps today, ask yourself where am I still giving the outside world too much authority over my inner world?

00:09:13: Whose opinion has become louder than my own knowing.

00:09:17: Who's mood am i carrying?

00:09:20: what projection?

00:09:21: have a mistaken for truth and then bring your energy back.

00:09:26: come back into you body Back in to your own awareness breathe for moment Come back into part of that.

00:09:33: knows I am here, this is my field.

00:09:38: This is me!

00:09:38: This is my life and i get to choose what i call divide here.

00:09:45: This self-empowerment becoming so deeply rooted in yourself that you no longer need them.

00:09:53: Thank You My dear for being Here with Me

00:09:55: today!!

00:09:56: I hope this episode reminds of something you may already know deep down Your energy is always yours, your power it's yours and you can return to both at any moment.

00:10:09: So maybe leave me a comment if this was helpful for you And I'll see you soon in our next episode.

00:10:16: with all my love.

00:10:17: See ya there Bye bye Yours Michelle.