32: You Don't Have To Let Go

00:00:00: Hello my love, and welcome to a new episode.

00:00:03: I am so happy you're here!

00:00:05: And today we are speaking about the topic that many women ask me about... ...and it's letting go.

00:00:13: Often i get the question how do i let go of this person?

00:00:17: How do i Let GO OF THE PAST?

00:00:19: HOW DO I LET GO OF THIS FEAR?

00:00:21: How Do I Let Go Of This Old Version Of Me?

00:00:25: Even how do I let go of the belief that i am not good enough, That i cannot receive money?

00:00:30: That love is hard.

00:00:31: That life isn't safe and so on... And i want to begin this episode with an answer that may feel a little unsatisfying at first.

00:00:39: Maybe it even annoys you..i don´t know.

00:00:42: And that is You Do Not Have To Let Go!

00:00:47: And yes ,you heard me right.

00:00:49: What if YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LET

00:00:52: GO?!

00:00:53: And I know this might go against so much of what you have learned in personal development, spirituality therapy spaces healing spaces manifestation spaces because how often we are taught before You can have the new thing.

00:01:07: You have to release The old thing Before you Can receive love?

00:01:10: You Have To let Go Of Your past Before We can Make Money.

00:01:14: You Have to Let go of your money blocks Before It can Become Visible You have To let go of the fear of Being Judged.

00:01:20: Before you can live your dream life, You have to let go of every wound Every trauma Every limiting belief Every old pattern.

00:01:28: And yes There can be truth in looking at what has shaped you.

00:01:34: But there is also a trap here Because it can spend your whole life letting go.

00:01:49: between you and the life that you want.

00:01:52: And all time without noticing, You are giving your energy to everything you say you wanna release!

00:02:00: This is first big shift I want offer today.

00:02:04: Sometimes obsession with letting go keeps you attached Because when whole focus is i need let go of this...you're still focused on it.

00:02:16: When your whole focus is I need to release my fear, you're still feeding the fear.

00:02:21: when your whole Focus Is i Need To Let Go Of The Belief That I Am Not Good Enough.

00:02:26: You Are Still Orbiting Around The Believe that YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

00:02:31: When Your Whole Focus Is I Need To Heal My Inability To Receive Money... ...you are STILL MAKING YOUR INABILITY TO RECEIVE MONEY THE CENTRE OF YOUR ENERGETIC FIELD.

00:02:41: and this where it gets so interesting Because your mind may think, but I am working on it.

00:02:48: I'm healing and trying to get rid of that.

00:02:51: But energy does not respond to explanation.

00:02:55: Energy responds to attention.

00:02:57: And whatever you keep looking at Whatever you keep analyzing Whatever repeating Whatever making significant You feed Even when say want let go.

00:03:10: This is the paradox The more you try to let something go from the energy of needing it gone, ...the more real it becomes.

00:03:18: Because...you're still in relationship with it!

00:03:21: You are still making it important!

00:03:24: YOU ARE STILL MAKING IT THE GATEKEEPER OF YOUR NEXT LEVEL!

00:03:29: And what if it is not?

00:03:32: What if the old thing isn't a

00:03:33: gatekeeper?!

00:03:35: WHAT IF YOU'RE ALLOWED TO TURN TO WORK?

00:03:37: WHAT YOU WANT

00:03:38: NOW?!

00:03:40: Not after ten more years of healing, but now.

00:03:44: So instead of asking what do I need to let go off?

00:03:48: I want to invite you into a much more powerful question What Do i Want To Have ?

00:03:54: What Do I Want To Live ?

00:03:56: What do I WANT TO EXPERIENCE ?

00:03:59: WHAT DO I WAN TO CREATE?

00:04:01: ?

00:04:01: How Do I Want My Body To Feel?

00:04:03: ?

00:04:03: HOW DO IWANT MY DAYS TO UNFOLD?

00:04:06: ?

00:04:06: HOWDOIWANTTOSHOWUP How do I want to receive?

00:04:11: So this question changes everything.

00:04:14: Because the moment you ask what do i want, You are no longer hypnotized but a thing that you DO NOT WANT!

00:04:22: YOU ARE NO LONGER STANDING IN FRONT OF THE OLD WANT BEGING IT TO DISAPPEAR!

00:04:27: You're turning toward creation and creation does not begin with deletion.

00:04:32: Creation begins with choice.

00:04:34: so let me explain this through one of the universal principles I come back to again and again.

00:04:40: And it's a law of polarity, so imagine a battery.

00:04:44: A normal battery has two poles –a plus pole and minus pole–and both poles belong to the same battery.

00:04:51: So you cannot have a functionary battery with only one pole.

00:04:55: You can not say they only want the plus.

00:04:58: Please remove the minus.

00:05:00: It does not work like that.

00:05:01: Both poles exist in the same field And this is how energy works too.

00:05:07: Every field contains both poles, love and the absence of love, abundance and the absence of abundance visibility and a fear of visibility.

00:05:18: receiving and blocking receiving joy and rejection of joy power and avoidance of power.

00:05:24: Both poles exist.

00:05:27: So the question is not How do I destroy the minus pole?

00:05:31: The Question Is Which Pole am i feeding?

00:05:34: Because so many people spend their lives trying to remove one side of the field.

00:05:39: They want abundance, So they obsess over their money blocks!

00:05:44: They won't laugh...so they obsess Over why love never worked?

00:05:48: They want ease and they obsessed over all the reasons life has been hard And without noticing..they are feeding the poll.

00:05:56: They say that do not want.

00:05:58: So there standing at a minus pole Trying force it become plus.

00:06:04: But you do not need to do that.

00:06:06: You can simply turn, you can turn toward the plus pole... ...you can feed what you desire!

00:06:13: You can nourish the version of reality you actually want to live.

00:06:17: And this is NOT denial.

00:06:19: Let me be very clear This is not about pretending The other pole does not exist.

00:06:25: This is Not About saying I am never afraid I have no wounds, my past did not affect me.

00:06:32: I am always high-wifed... No!

00:06:33: Not at all.

00:06:34: That is not consciousness.

00:06:36: This would be performance.

00:06:38: True consciousness says yes this exists And?

00:06:42: ...I do NOT HAVE TO MAKE IT MY HOME.

00:06:45: Yes the fear may be there.

00:06:46: Yes the old story maybe there.

00:06:48: Yes that wound might be there But you DO NOT HAVE to move in.

00:06:52: You do NOT have to sit down with it for tea every morning.

00:06:55: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BUILD YOUR IDENTITY AROUND IT and you do not have to keep asking it for permission to live.

00:07:02: This is the difference, You are NOT denying the minus pole!

00:07:06: You're simply no longer feeling it... ...you're saying I see YOU, you may exist but you are not a direction of my life.

00:07:17: So sometimes i speak about my mother because she's such beautiful example.

00:07:22: in many ways She is deeply intuitive, very perceptive and connected to the unseen world.

00:07:30: And when I was a child she spent many years in psychoanalysis.

00:07:34: She had experiences as young woman that called her to look at her childhood... ...to understand it, work through it or process it….

00:07:42: …and they want to honor them!

00:07:46: Because their seasons were looking for something important.

00:07:49: There are seasons where support is important and where therapy, reflection and integration are exactly right.

00:07:56: So this isn't about making that wrong!

00:07:59: But in the last years my mother-and I have walked a different path together And what became so clear was this Even after years of processing there can still be active energetic fields... ...there can still patterns There can still be all the emotional landscapes, there are things that feel familiar even when you have understood them.

00:08:21: Because understanding something is not always the same as choosing a new reality.

00:08:26: Let us go deeper into what happened.

00:08:29: At some point invitation becomes who do you choose to be now?

00:08:34: Not because the past did no matter but your future deserves energy too.

00:08:40: So another important distinction Awareness is powerful but endless analysis can become a loop.

00:08:47: You understand why love activates your nervous system, you learn to please hide control protect overgive withdraw perform or prove.

00:08:58: and that understanding may be beautiful.

00:09:01: But then comes the next question which is now what?

00:09:07: Now that you understood it What are you choosing now?

00:09:10: Because if you keep returning to the wound as your main reference point, it continues to be center of reality.

00:09:16: Even If You Speak About It in very intelligent words!

00:09:19: Even If We Can Explain It Beautifully At some point The Shift Is No Longer In Understanding The Old.

00:09:27: The Shift Isn't Energizing The New.

00:09:30: This is why the question What Do You Want Is So Important?

00:09:34: Not As A Nice Cute Question For Future but as an energetic command.

00:09:40: What do you want?

00:09:42: Do you want joy, then feed Joy?

00:09:46: Do You Want Love, Then Feed Love?

00:09:49: Do YOU WANT PLEASURE, THEN FEED PLUSHER?

00:09:51: DO YOU WANT MONEY TO FEEL LIGHT?

00:09:53: THEN FEED THE REALITY WHERE MONEY IS ALLOWED TO BE LIGHT!

00:09:57: DO YOUWANT TO FEELL FREE?

00:09:59: THENT FEED THE CHOICES THAT CREATE FREEDOM.

00:10:02: Do you want to have a beautiful life?

00:10:05: Then stop waiting until every wound that disappeared before your let-your-life become beautiful.

00:10:11: This is where many people get stuck.

00:10:13: They wait for the absence of the old, Before they permit the presence Of The New.

00:10:18: But what if the new becomes stronger because You feed it.

00:10:22: and That's the shift!

00:10:24: You do not Let go by fighting the Old And maybe the old thing will still be there for a while.

00:10:37: Maybe your mother still does not understand you, maybe someone still disagrees with your choices... ...maybe an old sadness still appears sometimes and then you have a choice.

00:10:48: You can say oh no this is still here I haven't healed enough!

00:10:53: I need to go back and work on it again.

00:10:55: or you could say interesting This is still present And I still choose what i chose.

00:11:04: This is sovereignty, the refusal to let old energy lead.

00:11:09: You observe a drama Maybe you even smile at it with the tenderness of someone who understands oh this old field.

00:11:17: that's trying to pull me back into significance.

00:11:21: and then...you do not enter!

00:11:24: ...You don't fight !

00:11:25: You do NOT explain yourself to the field !

00:11:28: You DO NOT negotiate for three weeks.

00:11:31: You simply turn back to what you're choosing.

00:11:35: So now, this does not mean that you never say no.

00:11:39: quite the opposite.

00:11:40: sometimes feeding then you means saying a very clear NO.

00:11:43: so if you choose peace ,you may need to say No to chaos.

00:11:47: If your choice pleasure .You might need to Say No to constant obligation.

00:11:51: This is important turning toward what we want.

00:11:53: it's not passive.

00:11:55: It isn't floating around and saying I only feed light.

00:12:00: Sometimes feeding the light is very clear, sometimes it has a backbone.

00:12:06: And sometimes it looks like no this does not work for me.

00:12:10: No I am NOT available for this dynamic anymore.

00:12:13: NO!

00:12:14: I will not make myself smaller so you can feel comfortable.

00:12:18: NO!

00:12:18: i will not keep explaining my desire to people who are committed to misunderstanding it.

00:12:25: NO!I choose differently now and notice the difference.

00:12:31: You're not saying no because you are obsessed with the old.

00:12:35: Here, your'e saying No Because you devoted to the new and that is a completely different energy.

00:12:43: so many people unknowingly make their problem The main character of their life...the ex becomes the main character..the fear Becomes the main characters....the childhood wound becomes the Main Character.

00:12:55: And then they wonder why the New Reality does Not land.

00:12:59: But there's no space!

00:13:00: The stage Is full.

00:13:03: The old story is still holding the microphone.

00:13:06: So, to practice it's not always to wrestle that microphone away.

00:13:10: Sometimes the practices turn on another stage To create a new room.

00:13:16: Add the energy of what you want Add beauty add pleasure add new choices add aligned action add nourishing conversations Add the version who can receive who is already living differently.

00:13:33: Add the version of you, Who's not waiting for permission and add a version of You, who says I take that whole package!

00:13:42: I know both poles exist but i feed the pole that creates life at desire.

00:13:47: And this so powerful Because your system begins to learn we are not in war with reality We're choosing within reality.

00:13:56: This is funny thing When stop trying hard to let go.

00:14:01: Letting go often happens naturally because your energy moved.

00:14:06: The old thing no longer gets the same attention, it no longer receives the same emotional charge and one day you notice oh I'm not thinking about this as much anymore or Oh!

00:14:18: This does NOT activate me in a way used to.

00:14:22: And THIS is REAL letting go Just natural consequence of no longer feeding the old field.

00:14:31: So let me give you a very simple practice for the next few days.

00:14:35: Whenever you notice yourself thinking I need to let this go, pause some moment take a deep breath and then ask what am i feeding right now?

00:14:48: Am I feeding the wound ,the fear or the lack ?

00:14:51: Or are my feeding the story that this is still a problem?

00:14:55: Are we feeding the identity of woman who cannot have what she wants?

00:14:59: And Then Ask Yourself What do I choose to feed instead?

00:15:03: Maybe you chose to feed love and then ask what would feed love right now.

00:15:07: May be a kind message, maybe an honest conversation may be Choosing yourself, maybe opening your heart again.

00:15:16: Maybe you'll choose the feed abundance.

00:15:18: Then asked what will feed abundance right now?

00:15:21: Maybe receiving the compliment...maybe looking at money with gratitude Instead of panic!

00:15:29: making a decision from expansion instead of contraction.

00:15:33: So ultimately, this is about devotion – what are you devoted to?

00:15:39: Are you devoted proving that the old story was real or are you dedicated creating something more beautiful?

00:15:47: Are your devoted explaining why it has been hard and whether letting things become easier now?

00:15:54: And again I say this with so much tenderness Because sometimes we are devoted to the wound because it kept us safe.

00:16:03: Sometimes, The Old Story gave us identity and belonging.

00:16:07: Sometimes fear protected from being seen rejected loved expanded.

00:16:13: so We do not judge It!

00:16:14: We simply choose again with love clarity and devotion.

00:16:19: Not I hate this old part of me And it needs to disappear but thank you.

00:16:25: i see how You try To protect Me.

00:16:27: Now I am turning toward life.

00:16:30: So my dear, the invitation of this episode is very simple You do not have to let go you get to turn towards what you want... ...you get to stop feeding what does not contribute.. ..you get take a whole battery ,the whole field The whole package knowing that both poles exist and then consciously nourish the pole that creates reality or desire.

00:16:54: You get to stop asking your blocks for permission.

00:16:58: And you get the begin.

00:16:59: now, Now you choose!

00:17:01: NOW YOU FEED THE NEW.

00:17:02: NOW YOU ADD THE FREQUENCY OF THE WOMAN WHO IS NO LONGER AVAILABLE TO ORBIT AROUND WHAT SHE DOES NOT WANT.

00:17:08: AND THIS IS WHERE YOUR BODY BEGINS TO VIBRATE DIFFERENTLY.

00:17:12: This is where creation becomes faster because you finally stopped making the old your source.

00:17:20: So take this question with you What am I feeding?

00:17:24: And even more importantly, what am I choosing to feed now?

00:17:29: So important.

00:17:33: It would also mean the world to me if you'd share this episode.

00:17:59: And, If there's a topic that I want to talk about in one of my next episodes let me know!